Hope610, You are not alone. My wife had an affair 4 years ago and even took our young children along with her when she would meet him. It was seriously out of character for her. She was diagonsed with rapid cycling type II BPD and recieved medication. The behaviors stopped, but then came the guilt. There have been some close calls recently, but we think it may be related to a medication change and she has a call in to the pdoc.

Hang in there, I know how you feel. Having a bipolar spouse/significant other is draining, but not as tough as being the bipolar person. I would take my wife's bpd in a heartbeat if I could so that she could feel some peace.

Look for a support group in your area and I wish you luck. I have not found one in my area, but the folks on this forum are great. I have learned more about what my wife goes through here in the last week than I have anywhere else in the last four years.

Remember to take care of yourself!