thank you for your help. Today he showed up at my work which is also where I live. I hid until I knew I could go home ..I e-mailed him tonight and told him I DO NOT want him at my place of work, home or any contact what so ever. he has called twice but I didn't answer. This is one of the hardest things I have went through because I don't want to hurt him. but I'm tired of feeling like a yo yo and need to find me again.I hope and pray he will be ok and someday will find the person he can be happy with . He is truly a nice guy and deserves to be happy but I'm just not the right person for him.I feel so bad for doing this to him.I'm a mess.....hope you all are doing alright and stay with me on this because I sure can use friends right now.....goodnight