My T always tells me it ISN'T about her.....and it isn't! Sometimes I may want it to be, but it isn't. Therapy is about my/our issues and our Ts want to help us focus on what we need to work on, not be distracted by our feelings/thoughts for them......so, as much as it hurts, your T is really doing what she needs to do to help you and to help you work on your issues!