I am at present in the same sort of relationship, break up get back together...I had actually been fine this time I moved out in Feb. Just when I am feeling good again here he comes! I am guilty of allowing him back in BUT this time not moving back in.....I am just tired now. I too know I am in a dysfunctional relationship was, note was, mistaking his jabs and insults as him loving me and wanting me (thats actually how he would start talking to me again) but no realize where are the I miss you, I love you my life is not complete and so on. We have talked about a many ways "we" can make this work, what "we" need to do to make it better......from exercise to getting out yada yada yada.....and I will say this out loud on here...I know its a waste of time and energy because things will be good for a few months if that long and go right back to accusations no trust lonliness....why is it no matter how tumultuous the relationship a break-up is still so hard.....I beleive i would be just fine and dandy if he would move on (note - he is the one that initiated the break ups, and he decides he wants me again.......like a hunter...the thrill of the chase, but once the thrill is gone...done) I have allowed this I know....but I wonder.....well heck! never mind...nothing should be so difficult!