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Old Feb 21, 2006, 05:56 PM
Anonymous29319
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I can't remember - do you have a therapist? all USA therapy agencies have an on call person. maybe you can set up with your therapist that you can call him/her when you are alone as a check in and he/she can give you some "homework" that can keep you busy and on track during the times you are alone. How about calling your friends. That has helped me many times when alone. One of my friends had a husband was in the military. sometimes he worked nights and quite often he was out of town and sometimes even out of the states on "tour of duty" "on the front lines and so on. She had been raped and we met in a therapeutic group. Alot of us in this group had this problem of flashbacks and imagination problems when alone. so we came up with a buddy system. The buddys were responsible for making sure each other knew the other persons schedule and checked in with each other at least daily and help each other through the long emotional nights and so on. My friend / buddy and I spent many nights playing cards, watching movies and so on over the phone and in person. Maybe you can start something like this with your friends.

You can also start this with the support / therapy groups that you attend if you do. If you don't attend them how about contacting the mental health agencies and crisis centers in your area. Most are free or run on a sliding fee scale if the person qualifies. they too are a great resource for calling on those long nights. many times I have called various crisis centers and therapy agencies after hours and said "hi Im so and so and Im alone and I just needed to hear a real persons voice can you stay on the line with me for a few minutes?" I have always recieved a yes and they stayed on the phone with me sometimes up to two hours straight other times five minutes depending on how busy they were.

Also how about vollunteering for your local crisis center taking calls. They train you and you have the choice of taking calls in your home, or at thecenter, and can pretty much set your own schedule of when you are available to take calls. Many nights I have past taking calls from others that were having the same problems that I was having with being alone. It gave me someone to talk to and I was helping another person in the process.