Hey Zoo,

I was just catching up in your other thread also. I think perhaps when she said that there was no repairing the relationship and that there's nothing going on I think she isnt saying its hopeless and the relationship is ruined but that she cannot do anymore than she is doing.

However her lack of consistancey and sentences that make no sense what so ever would drive any client mad!! She says one thing and contradicts herself. e.g. how can she tell you that you shouldnt have brought up talking about "us" in the last 5 minutes of therapy and then whilst going over time by about 20 minutes she says "we have been talking about us for the past 50 minutes" -

I don't see how she cannot see her own contracting behaviours and how that harms a client. Is she in denial or not taking proper supervison! I mean you cannot tell a client "phone when you need me", then "you are calling me too much", then hugging the client and saying "everythings going to be ok, call me if you need to"... I mean wow! If this woman thinks she has no fault in this then she is living on another planet.

However in saying all this, I do think she wants to help you but I also think she does not know how to maintain a healthy theraputic relationship and is not taking reponsibility for her own words in the session. I also think you are right that she is bringing far to much of her own emotion into this.

I know how much she means to you but I also know how much the past few months have been etremely painful. Seeking another therapist may be the best thing.

****huge hugs*****