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Originally Posted by Direction
I'm glad you stuck to your boundaries...I'm sure this is quite a loss...just remember that its ok to vent...remember the hard work will not be to talk about how he needs to grow and change and him being alone for awhile and wallowing in his mistakes and hitting rock bottom...
It's more about you looking at yourself learning about assertiveness, boundaries, what you want from someone and not settling because he is the "first" or second or whatever...it's actually your chances at growth that would have been impeded should you have stayed that you should be concerned about...not his...
Does this make sense why I keep coming back to this?
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Yes, it makes sense now...
I was settling for someone that didn't make me happy... there was always something careless or rude which he would say about something he did in a past relationship which would make me cringe and think, "I hope he doesn't think it's OK to be that way with me." His whole, "I never plan to make mistakes, they just happen, and I have no regrets... I'm a different peron now anyway" thing was really getting old. What about planning around the actual prevention of mistakes? Why would that be so bad? I know I'm younger than him, but since I have a different and more strict set of standards/morals, I actually do try to prevent myself from making mistakes, and when I make them I usually feel really bad about them and try to learn from them - I don't just say, "Whatever goes, goes." And I think I want someone who can match me in that respect. I need someone who can evaluate their past, present and future, and act with responsibility. I always say, if I can do it, there is no reason why the person I love can't. I guess I just chose to love the wrong person.