Hi June Bug, there is a saying called "Buyers remorse" and it does address a common feeling after one purchases and item. But it goes deeper than that June, one of the things you are buying is a change. You need a change and this is also common and thus we have all those annoying commericals, oh we simply have to have these things that will greatly improve our life. And we grow up with these commercials and guess what? We begin to believe on some level that we should have something new.
And every good salesman/woman is trained this and it is all in presentation, as a matter of fact I saw a program on just how important presentation is and how it is really actually studied by observing a potential buyers eyes, the pupil responds to a pleasurable shape. It is the bazaar program I watched but it's true.

The other issue you discussed with the piano had a couple of different meanings, one is what I described above and the other is that because you could not make use of it you were then annoyed not only by the purchase and a little buyer's remorse but also that you were not really able to put use to it. The other issue is that often we are trained to wonder, do we really need it or deserve it? Oh we begin to feel that we over indulged and that we are bad and undeserving so then we need to get rid of the evidence of being selfish as soon as possible and thus what we get for it is less important than getting rid of the evidence of it or the fact that we did try to do something for ourselves. And that does happen a lot and some of that is trained into us perhaps by a parent when we are young and they say, that toy is too expensive, you don't need it etc. And I will bet you find it easier to buy something for someone else, but not you right?

And then Queen, what you experience is the fact that again through living with a parent that may have been through the depression or exposed to one that has, the thought of throwing anything out is a sign of not appreciating what one actually has. It is very strange how people do view their possessions and how that relates to how they were raised. And also if something purchased was really useful for a purpose than time does not change it's usefulness and so we must keep it and appreciate that we do have it. And if it was in the family than we keep that too in respect of that family member.

Then there is the extreme ofcourse, the horder who simply cannot separate from any item they own, not even the garbage. They truely have severe issues with separating from anything and they have great trouble making decisions so they make none.

So, when you go and purchase something June you have to really think about what you are buying and what it really means. You have to get beyond that feeling of not deserving it once you own it. Sometimes if one is feeling denied, they will try to buy in order to fight that feeling. So my suggestion to you is ask yourself what have you been denied and think about your past and your childhood, get to the bottom of it so that you can actually go out and buy something and enjoy it and know you deserve it.

The other thing that we have to consider is that we are constantly under the gun by every commercial to purchase, purchase, purchase. And you cannot expect a purchase to change your life or make you happy, no, it doesn't last. You have to invest in yourself and that takes time. But think about yourself first and what you really want and are you willing to accept your choices or do you punish yourself for making choices, that can be instilled to without us even knowing.

Oh June, I just wanted to tell you I have a piano for sale. LOL Oh I always wanted a baby grand, its not new, I dont usually buy new, I try to find older quality things, gives me more permission, LOL, but I never got a chance to really use it. I play by ear but dont have time to enjoy it. But I do like looking at it, it does need tuning though LOL.

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