Reality, in regard to today's world, Protoform, a person doesn't get sent "to a mental hospital" unless they are seriously suicidal. . . . and even then it isn't guarenteed! And I am not sayng that being put in the "mental hospital" is even helpful to people who are suicidal. Everything in US medical/mental health care is driven by the oh mighty dollar! Hospitalization is prohibitive when it comes to insurance/private pay. Emergency room docs and crisis workers are trained NOT to admit clients unless they pose a MAJOR risk for suicide or they are exhibiting florid psychosis. From what I've gathered about you, you are a person who loves to pose questions and be oppositional (and that's not a bad thing). You are argumentative but definitely NOT someone who seems to be exhibiting psychotic type behavior . . . although you might be clever enough to cloak that . . . Just kidding, Protoform!

Anyway, most private therapist who feels that someone isn't making the progress they need to make or they are beginning to feel frustrated or anxious about how the therapy is going or worried about boundary violations by the client, these therapists will refer the person to someone else--the reason people here talk about "being terminated" (sad but true).

BUT, the reality is many of us who are in therapy project or put on our therapists all our OWN misconceptions regarding relationships and we leave or run from the therapy setting before we can recognize our contribution to the rupture or even begin to deal with it (and that's if we have an intelligent and well trained therapist who recognizes these issues and is on top of them enough to bring them to our attention and insist that we deal with them in a caring and empathetic manner).

Why do I know that? LOL Because I'm one of those people who has run. I've done it numerous times. I've gotten angry or upset with something my therapist did or forgot to do and left. Have I been right? ::::sheepish response::::: Most times not! (and yes, I've had one therapist who was clueless and couldn't have found his therapeutic way our of a paper bag if he had wanted to, but he was just one out of four three therapists I tried) Has my other "good" therapists made mistakes in dealing with my issues? Absolutely!!!! But the reality is, I was the one who was too sensitive. ... too judgemental. . .. too exacting in my expectations in a relationship. Am I better? Okay, I'm being honest, just a teeny tiny bit better after five years of therapy, but I am better at relationships. I have to recognize that I am a person who has lived the "wrong way" or the dysfunctional way for so long that it is hard to change or see the reason to change who I am in any relationship. Does that belief hurt me? Definitely! Can I change it? Not easy and not quickly . .. and I'm OLD and realistic. I can only expect so much change from this older person. If I was twenty or thirty I would be more optomistic . . . at my age, just a little change will have to be okay.

I do hope that you find the right therapist, Protoform. I do believe it can happen. Just know that change isn't quick and it is definitely NOT magical or like taking a pill. It also isn't like a mechanical "switch" that is flipped and it changes how we think or feel. Boy, I'd like it to be that way. I'd like it to be like turning on a computer and putting in the data and getting the expected results. But it isn't that way. Human relationships are complicated and . .. darn it they are confusing. I know from your posts that you probably know this and I might be irratating you with the simplicity of my post, but the reality is, I am well educatated but when it comes to my own personal relationships, I am IGNORANT and CLUMSY. I wish it was different, but it isn't. Take care and I hope it works out for you.