When we don't get a reply/response to something, everything afterwards is all speculation in our heads, all the, "maybe she just decided. . ." is what we are telling ourselves and have nothing to do with the actualities of the situation (we have to wait until we can talk to the person and find out from them what they were doing/thinking by asking them). I have a policy that if I'm going to do that to myself, get all worked up, I might as well think "good" thoughts as bad? I don't know what it is so I might as well think something that will benefit me; if people don't respond it must be because something is so big and good that they have to tell me in person, when they can smile on me and be excited and I can see!