I am definitely triggered because of what my mother would say about being sensitive and she was never there as a nurturing mother so anytime I had a problem or was upset she would yell at me or tell me I was 'sensitive'. There is a fine line between me being 'overly sensitive' and the person talking to me not being aware of how they come across to people (I don't think my husband is ready to 'get that'?). In my opinion what he said 'user error' was rude and I took it that way even though what he said wasn't intended to mean that (I think there's seriously a disconnect in his brain with how what he says effects others feelings). I guess my decision lies in weather or not I want to live with it. I'm not the perfect wife so I shouldn't be pointing fingers as I bring my own issues to the table.

When it comes to book intelligence ie: any high end math or physics ect... there's not contest. Academically he was amazing in school and president of the debate club (lucky me). My husband is a genius but he doesn't get that nor does he act like he is one. I'm an artist , cook, runner, yogi, stay at home mom and my physical health has become a major priority (I'm reaching goals and I've been told by others IRL I am an inspiration for how I've changed my physical health and appearance through diet and exercise) so I'm sure my higher self esteem plays into all of this just a bit?

Not that it's a contest (T thinks my husband and I have a 'competitive relationship') but when it comes to emotional intelligence I have the brains - just my opinion but I'm a little biased in my opinion.

Sorry for the long response to your question. As I'm sure you can tell I'm grappling with some pretty big issues in my marriage right now. Hope things get better. I know enough to know that leaving my marriage isn't going to make my problems go away. I just want to make things better.

Thanks for listening