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Old Jun 23, 2011, 03:59 PM
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Originally Posted by jazzy123456 View Post
hmmmm... you 'feel' a certain way but, you are 'thinking' that your therapist wasn't trying to intentionally invalidate your point of view. thats an important insight to hold onto...because this reminds us that are feelings aren't always necessarily the truth...Hearing things like "your sensitive"..especially from a therapist, triggers situations from our familes where we felt unheard and it seems to be when we hear the word "sensitive" we correlate it with, "So, your telling me what I feel is not important..." Which, this isn't always the case. Being told your sensitive is a vulnerable place to be. It could very well be true that your T wAS only making an observation that you are a sensitive person... in hopes of you at least getting to know yourself on a deeper level........NOT an attack to who you are but, an insight... So yes, keep in mind the differences between what you are "feeling" at any given moment and what you are 'thinking' . We must have awareness.
Thank you Jazzy for your thoughtful insight. It's funny you mentioned what my T's intentions were. Now thinking about it after saying the sensitive statement she said that she knows it must be hard for me to sit with that. It still hurts none the less.

As for the upside to being sensitive I couldn't agree more - (I think in many ways it helps me be a better mom)
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