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Originally Posted by Direction
Knowing you have feelings for him and knowing he is involved with someone...really doesn't lend itself to seeing this person this weekend. Although I'm guessing you probably will see him in some capacity...it really comes down to setting your boundaries...and letting him know what they are...
Let's say his behavior is crossing the friend line...you tell him that you don't believe that its appropriate considering he is in a relationship. What's crossing the line? Well think if you were his girlfriend, what things would you not want him to be doing with another girl?
I'm guessing he will pretty quickly get it...if he doesn't then I trust you will realize he doesn't respect your boundaries...which means he is not respecting you...
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Well he is my friend and has been for about a year now so.. It's not like he's some strange guy I met a few weeks ago or anything.. Seeing each other for movies or just to hang out was never
this complicated and confusing until recently.
I'm starting to set boundaries now, part of the problem was that I was letting myself be naive and believing that we were just friends (mind you I haven't had a proper face-to-face friendship with anybody in 4 years so I figured that was just how it was sometimes). Plus, I was afraid of making things more serious than they needed to be.. I have a hard time telling the difference between jokingly flirting/teasing and some serious hints.. So I've been unsure what was really going on and I've been embarrassed before when I took something more serious than necessary and it's not something I rather enjoy..
He's respecting the boundaries I've put up so far, and I'm bringing up the fact that he has a girlfriend way more often to stop any attempt of flirting. I've only started this today so.. I suppose we'll see.
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