Rainbow Rose, sounds like you're doing a lot of good, hard work and your T's "redirect" is actually working for you? Therapy has to be about us in our own "real" life, not just about the therapy relationship. That relationship can be fraught with all the struggles of our past and reflections of problems with our present relationships. It can be really really hard to break free from that but I found it really worth it.

I'm going through this same type of struggle with my T right now, and I appreciate your post so much, RR. Thank you.

It's hard because what we feel for our T may have its roots in something from childhood, so we tend to want to keep it in the present, with HER. It seems like it's about my T, not about my past. She's more real to me.

Yes, I understand very well what you're feeling. I'm glad the responses to my thread helped you. I have yet to go back and respond to all those wonderful replies! I know the big HURT feelings when you want to discuss your relationship with T and she wants to move on to what SHE thinks is more important. That's the way I felt yesterday at my session.

You sound like you're going in a good direction with your thoughts and feelings about all of this. It's not easy!!