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First off I would not suggest that you hook up with a date site or any other person for that matter, a person needs a little time to their self when (and if) a relationship fails..... say about a year to get to know you again.
Second - I would start with seeing if you can get welfare, food stamps along with the SSI if it does indeed have to come to that.

I cannot tell you what to do in this situation, but I can be here to listen to you talk (and vent) as you try to work through all this in your own head..... you might want to talk to your PCP and see about being placed on some type of medicine to help you deal with all the undo stress.

LoVe,
Rhapsody -