Thanks everyone, I normally would not come right out and ask, because i understand ladyjnlst point, i am kinda shy with questions on thingsand would neverwant someone to take offense,,, i havent talked to him about this yet, and i dont know what to do, i see him struggling and i dont want him to feel he sall alone with this secret but i respect his right not to tell, its hard to watch him struggle, i know its hard for him to get the words out, he has said he wishes he could tell me, so a pt of me thought if i could show him i kinda know and support him, maybe he would feel some relief to know i dont look at him differently, hes still the same guy to me i love and have been friends with for a long time, On the other hand im not sure ifhe would think me reading up on stuff is sorta going behind his back? Hes having a rough time now and I dont want to put pressure on him, thats why im waiting to say or do anything, I guess what I was asking is have you ever had someone come out and ask you or suggest it in some sort of way and howdid you respond to it?