Divorce is no fun to pretend...takes much time to get past the wreckage of what was a relationship...

I get what you are thinking though...maybe pretend he is distant friend of sorts...It has been said that many couples are happier many years down the road after working through struggles then those same years down the road after a divorce.

I've been divorced for about 5 1/2 years and just starting to find my way...so when you say "nice guy", maybe things could be worked through. I'm just saying divorce is not much of a quick fix and it could be worth spending the next few years putting the work in on the marriage...so I agree with your your last sentence...