Thanks Mysterious - we have a really, really good relationship 90% of the time. Those are really good questions to ask oneself. I don't think he'd leave, if he hasn't already (for example, I demanded that he get treatment for his depression... that didn't go over well...). If he left, I don't think my entire life would fall apart (btdt) but I would grieve a lot. I think we're ok - just getting my frustration out here helps me keep a calmer demeanor when we discuss it in therapy. Thanks