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How to Stop Obsessing About Another Person
Do you find yourself obsessing about another person? Do images of this person--or of you and the person together--interrupt your daily life? Do you feel like no matter what you do, you can't stop thinking about him or her? Following the steps listed below can help you to get your mind back.
Instructions
- 1 First, acknowledge that your thoughts have nothing to do with the other person. This may sound strange, but when you find yourself constantly daydreaming, instead of actually developing the relationship or taking care of other things in your life, you are acting out a form of addiction.
- 2 Look at your behavior. An addiction is characterized by a craving or compulsion to do something over and over when you know that it only makes you feel bad (or worse). List the positive things you get from thinking about this person. Then list the negative things.
- 3 Try to figure out what the person represents. Often we use other people as symbols of something we want in our lives. For example, if you're worried about being successful in your life, you might develop an obsession with a person who you think is successful. If you're facing a major life transition (changing jobs, divorce, moving), you might find yourself obsessing about someone who seems to handle everything with ease. If you can figure out what desire the person represents to you, you can then list other ways of meeting that need.
- 4 Consider that thinking about the other person may just be a way of distracting yourself. Finish this sentence: "If I wasn't thinking about_____right now, I would have to_______". Are you avoiding something by focusing on someone else, and telling yourself that it's love?
- 5 Every time thoughts of this other person invade your brain, tell yourself, "I'm not really thinking about_____. I'm thinking about (how scared I am that I'm not as pretty as I want to be). I can make myself feel prettier by______."
Read more: How to Stop Obsessing About Another Person | eHow.com http://www.ehow.com/how_5093663_stop...#ixzz1QCRk4hyu
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