Thanks for the pointer, Dottie! You can bet I'll be talking to them, too!

Jerry is in denial about the reality of our relationship. He insists that all we are to each other is "friends." I've compromised on that point. If that's what he wants to think, so be it. My feelings are different. If everything was equal, I wouldn't have any problem dealing with it. What I have a problem with is that he's thoughtless and selfish in everything he does. His ONLY consideration is himself.

What is it with T's that their first line of defense is to break up?? Our "couples" T did it, too, and managed the breakup. I thoroughly resent her for that! I didn't attend the session last Saturday because *I* refuse to lay out my relationship with Jerry for the T's examination! That wasn't the intent of the visit! ... And then, of course, Jerry abused the opening he got from the T. I closed that door by not going. There is NO BETTER JUDGE than myself of what I can or can't, will or won't do in my relationship! ARGH!

What really gets me about the first T is that she's a "Christian" yet has no respect for the institution of marriage! Again, ARGH!

Sorry for the rant.