Hi,

I used to be like that with my husband...it took time but eventually, little by little I let him see more of me. Sex was always in the dark and I thought the same as you....if he saw me naked, he would leave me. I have had weight issues going up and down since my early 20's and I am now 30 and as a result have stretch marks etc. So anyway, after sex, he would turn the light back on and I would get up, wrap a sheet around myself and go get dressed in the bathroom. Like your partner, he was upset that I would do this. So, there was this one time, he demanded we keep the light on.....so ok, I did, but like you kept my top on. It was such a gradual process but eventually (around 2 or 3 yrs) I let him see my body naked....I was crying and it was so painful...but you know what, he kissed my belly (which is where I had the problem) and told me I had nothing to worry about...he smiled and said he fancied me now more than ever So, now, I have no problem!!

For now, don't push yourself into to it.....try visualising doing it...keep visualising taking your t-shirt off and visualise everything will be ok once he see's you. To me, it sounds like you have a lovely relationship and I am betting you wont get the reaction you are fearing. Maybe a couple of glasses of wine beforehand to help you relax?

I would also urge you to tell him what your fears are reagrding him leaving you if he saw your body. I think maybe, once you are reassured he wont do this, it will make it easier for you. But do talk to him about it. It was after a long talk with my hubby that I gained the couraged to show him.

Wishing you all the best.