Thank you for your reply. If I use the word aloneness how exactly would I put it in a sentence? I already say I feel alone, do you think that if I say I feel seperated aloneness instead, that is a better way of conveying how I feel and I would feel more understood?

I'm not really sure what you mean by 'it is the process of therapy that helps us to find what the gaping hole is about', - does that mean there is a reason for the gaping hole? Is it important to find out why I feel this way because everything is always so complicated with me in therapy and it wouldn't surprise me if there aren't any concrete reason behind my feelings!

I have to admit I don't find feeling alone powerful or calming. I can understand what you mean though. I imagine if you have a strong sense of self you don't rely on others to make you feel better....which they can never do unfortunately!