You know, I had a situation with a friend who did help me with many things and I was attached because of that. But there was emotional abuse directed my way also. My T has helped me extract myself from that "friend". My T told me that abusers blame the victim. Your T sounds similar to an abuser. As with my friend who had helped me in some situations, in the end, her verbal abuse was affecting my life negatively.

So, is the fear of the unknown worse than the suffering you now experience with your T? We can get attached to the familiar even when it's painful. My T has explained to me that if, in our early years, our caretakers caused us pain, it is still the known and we will continue to attach ourselves to that kind of 'known' even when painful - just because it's familiar.

So, I guess you're saying that the terrible way you're treated by your T is preferable to you than the challenge of looking for a more supportive therapist. Is that correct?