Sannah I've been married for 10yrs. When we first started living together before we were married I had my doubts (do to pressure from my dysfunctional family - my husband stood up for me when I was being treated poorly by my family/parents). We got married and I had a period of time of feeling very content, happy, feeling lucky. My doubts seemed to come back when my first born was around three years old and I was pregnant with my second child. I married him because he meant safety and security (we also did things together like Kayak, travel etc...). Our values are very much the same when it comes to living life. We have young children so I know that can put a stress on our marriage. We don't do things together anymore (were trying). We used to Kayak together when we were dating go hiking etc... my husband doesn't have any interest in doing much these days. I'm however more active than ever and I feel like we are growing apart I want us both to be happy and I'm still wanting to work on this if I think we can have happiness. - I hope.