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mokie · Jun 25, 2011, 04:36 AM

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Originally Posted by cutebagaddict08

Feels like I am losing my best friend:

I feel like I am losing my best friend again. We've been close for a few years, I was the 'Maid of Honor' at her wedding a few months ago. During the planning of her wedding, she became a completely different person. To the point her mother wasn't talking to her because, my friend was being very snotty and mean. (I got a long note from her mother basically apologizing for the way her daughter was treating me and the other bridesmaids, her mother was very upset and didn't know what else to do. ) I finally was able to talk to my friend, and we worked through the issues. We both deal with anxiety issues, and have been support systems for eachother through out the past year or so.
Within the past month or so, she's starting to change again. Basically I feel like I am re-living how she acted a few months ago. I haven't heard from her on the phone in weeks. She's sent me a few 'fake' emails, acting all friendly in the email. At first I thought she was going through a tough time (which is what caused her last time to not act like her self), I was so concerned about her and told her this, but she completely denied it and kept saying that she is fine and our friendship is fine. She's always been supportive and the one friend I could call if I needed to vent or she would call me to vent. So, I put it out of my mind....but then since that talk, about a month ago, I've barely heard from her. She knows I'm going through some stressful stuff now, and the other stuff she doesn't know about because she hasn't taken the time out to ask. I'm getting to the point,I'm really upset. My husband and I are having a summer party, the party we have every year, and I got her email today that she's not coming, I started to cry. I don't know why, but this is really upsetting me. I feel like I have lost my best friend. I don't know what to do.

Sorry you feel this way. It could be that she is now married and has a different life. Not that she don't want to be in yours but that she has her husband now. Usually when my friend gets a girlfriend she starts to not talk like before. Then when she breaks off her relationship she is back to her old self. I know it hurts. It hurts me too but some times others who have. Just gotten married at first find it hard to know how to manage their time with their husband and friend. Just give her time and I would just be honest to her about how you feel. She may not realize how you feel and that she is causing you to be hurt. So talk to her in person and clear the air. After that you can can see how things work out.