Dear Sabrina,
If I may ask? - why is therapy or counseling not an option for you right now.... you can answer that "Q" for me in here or PM me in private if you so desire.
2 very good books (recommended by my T) that have greatly helped me understand my wounds and how they will come out or interfere in my present life when they are left unhealed or unresolved are:
1.) Feelings Buried Alive Never Die, by Karol Truman
2.) Radical Forgiveness, by Colin Tipping (and his 13 Step Healing CD)
>>>>>>> LINK:
http://www.radicalforgiveness.com/
LoVe,
Rhapsody -