My first reaction to this is "Whoa! What is up with this!" I, personally, could never work with a therapist who talked to and treated me like this. The cursing is over the top. Then again, I don't talk that way and it appears by your response back to her that you do. So, in that respect, maybe you are comfortable with your therapist cursing at you?

Not sure how long you have been with your therapist, so maybe this is normal for you guys? Do you like to be talked to like this? Does it help you? I know that some people do need tough love and a very strict therapist who "tells it like it is".

I have to wonder why you think this is okay? Is this how you were treated by your parents or someone else? Is this normal for you to be treated like this by others? It sounds very condescending to me.

To be honest, it makes my skin crawl when I read it. I don't have this kind of relationship with my therapist. Yes, she does get firm with me and says things I don't like. Yes, she does tell me in a round about way that I need to stop allowing my mind to keep going back to the negative and force myself to focus on a more positive outlook for my future.

I think if your therapist had written her message this way, it would still get the message across, but not be so condescending and harsh:

"Stop focusing on all those old negative thoughts/patterns...you need to focus on how good of a person you are....that's why you need to find a way to do things that are more positive--- like maybe volunteering with others...stop focusing on all the bad....it's sad to hear when you are a good soul and could help more people. Try not to allow yourself to play the victim...it's so not true...and old part of you keeps making it a focus...focus on good things...can you go and join a meditation group?...Will you think about going and doing more good things for others?"