It's so nice to see someone sober than not sober especially when they have a problem with it. I deal with family members who drink too much, too. I know the scary feelings their drinking and subsequent actions/words can bring. It's hard to trust someone who hurts you for sure. I just take each day as it comes with them. Even though alchololism is an illness it surely effects us, too. I have days when I feel so angry with some of them and then I am feeling sorry for them. I feel they don't seem to know what they are doing in life nor do they have good direction. That's why when people quit drinking they need to replace it with something else. Preferably something that can help them be more mature. Getting some help after I quit helped me a lot. I didn't know how to be in life. I'm no saint now but I am doing better in the sense that I do constructive things. Does your husband have hobbies? If he does, encouraging him to get into them may help. Has he had any treatment or counseling? That can help him to stay quit and to learn how to live better sober. Many go to AA and many wives/husbands/children go to Al Anon for support out there in the world. I also went to both and got a lot of support and learned new ideas on how to cope. I had phone numbers to call when things got bad, too.

Nice to meet you and hope you'll keep posting.

<font color=purple>Peace to you. CQ</font color=purple>

<font color=green>"I am beginning to learn that it is the sweet, simple things of life which are the real ones after all."
- Laura Ingalls Wilder
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