I agree with what Chronic said. My T is very direct and blunt but she still delivers in a compassionate manner. What you said about her "suck it up Buttercup" way of responding goes against what DBT teaches. I know you aren't doing DBT, but i want to clarify because some people believe DBT to be a harsh form of therapy and it is not. I think your T may be frustrated that you are going there in your head again, perhaps you have done that before? I don't think the way she spoke to you was very helpful, although I do think that some of what she said makes sense. It sounds like she wants you to get out of your own head and stop listening to the negative self-talk, and that she feels really bad that you keep doing that to yourself (ie she knows you are worth so much more!). My T has, at times, raised her voice at me to snap me out of whatever, and it works well for me because we know each other so well and she knows exactly what to say and how to say it to get me back on track, so maybe this is why you dont feel this is abusive.