((( Cats )))

I see in these latest threads that you spend time sharing what your T says - getting feedback from others that trigger you to feel defensive and protective of your relationship with your T.

The important things are what the words mean to you and what they mean to your T. Asking your T directly is the only way you will get an accurate response.

But I understand your desire to get some other perspectives here, and I can appreciate that. I shudder at the word "victim" when it's used as a form of labeling. Now, 'victim mentality', to me, describes a personality - neediness, feeling less than, etc.

I wonder how your T would respond if you DEMAND that she not speak to you that way - and if you share how you feel about her responses in a strong and confident way.