Adjusting now to having moved out and it's strange, I feel so good...I don't have to come home from work and worry about what is going to make my husband angry or just deal with all the negative emotion that I didn't really realize I just carried around with me just from knowing that I was in a relationship that didn;t make me happy. It's like when I see him or speak to him now it's from a slowly changing perspective. I moved out and I'm living and naturally, I get upset and I get frustrated at times and I i've cried but he is CONSTANTLY angry, I can tell when we talk or when I see him that he teetering on the brink of a tantrum, he tries to needle me so that I will fall back into the old routine of losing my patience with it, pushing one of his buttons and then when he explodes being there for him to blame it on because I pushed him. He called and asked me to pick up some money yesterday after I told him that I would prefer if he would just deposit in the account so we didn;t have to see each other and he caused a scene in front of my house, he was definitely reining in the anger and I was surprisingly calm (surprising even to myself) I told him that any concerns he had could be directed to my lawyer, that that was appropriate at this point because I did not want to argue with him and he proceeded to follow me out of the house and hold my car door open and not let me leave "until he was finished." I feel badly, I really do. He has alienated everyone in his life with his out of control temper and unreasonableness and on top of that he is one of the most dependant people that I know, he has completely leaned on me and his parents to take care of things for him....everything was in my name, he only works part time, he really is a lost soul at this point and he feels doubly betrayed because I've fallen in love with someone else. I wish it weren't like this, I wish that I could help him, but I can't...the problem is that everyone has helped him too much his whole life, everyone has enaabled his behavior and there have never been any consquences for any of his actions. He has spit at my face, called me a ****, pushed me, broken furntiture, held me down so that he could get a point across or held doors shut so that I could not go where I wanted to...he has physically attacked his father and called his mother by the same endearments that I mentioned above with respect to myself and EVERYONE has tolerated it, everyone has said "Ya know if you do this one more time...." and then done nothing...I recently found out that his parents financed his new car and that he's not even paying them for the loan like he agreed to!! It's sad it really is AND I AM SO GLAD TO BE PUTTING IT BEHIND ME!!! I hope that he gets the help that he needs, I really do, for the sake of our son if nothing else.