Squirrel, I think the fact that you were able to get into the independent T sooner than you were able to get into the bigger group is a good sign. You would be able to keep your previous pdoc, so you would only have to address the trust issues with the T at this time. The only reason to have a local pdoc right now would be if you are hospitalized (your pdoc may not have admitting priviliges near where you're living) or if your insurance no longer pays for you to see someone that is not local. No matter which T you see, they shouldn't care which pdoc you see as long as you're able to get the medications and care that you need.
Make your choice based on what will work the best for you and allow you to get the care you need. Good luck and keep us posted - slow