Hello June,
The Commitment to accept is actually even a couple of steps before forgiveness...
Its more like: the big picture is just too much too figure out/handle/place in your mind correctly, so instead of forcing it to fit and not being comfortable and having too many hang-ups about it, you commit to the idea that one day it will fit, and when it does, then you can worry about forgiving/not forgiving etc. Its just about understanding whatever the reality is and accepting that it is real and true.
If there is no acceptance of the thing that needs forgiveness for, then any forgiveness work is done in vain, or done shallowly, or done without full meaning.
Does that make sense? I hope that makes it a little clearer June.
Thank you for asking for clarification.
kp