SoupDragon
i am so sorry for the loss of your grandfather - it sounds like he was an amazing man who played a big role in your life.

As far as all of the listening...I can't imagine that you wouldn't get triggered. I think because you have "been there" it gives you the gift of empathy, which allows you to be the best kind of listener to others, but it is tough on you after, as you can now see...because you CAN relate and identify. It's a tough thing to separate but I think you are getting better because you are identifying what you're going through.