Jazzy, I sense your T was trying to let you know that it is OK to have those hard emotional times. Perhaps others in your past told you to "suck it up" or punished you in some way for having your emotions?

The ability to cry is a healthy thing. It shows that healing can happen. I sense that is what your T was trying to reinforce for you.

You said ".maybe what I need is a better way to end my sessions... " I think this is something valid to bring up at the start of your next session. I agree that leaving a session with bits in the air can be very hard. But the T doesn't always know why a client leaves in tears. Therapy is tough work and it is probably one of the only professions where clients leave the office in tears when they may have walked in laughing. Ts have to let the client go and let them go process through the session. That is all a part of the healing journey. Just be honest about what you feel.

For me, I have stopped T at the end and said "I don't want to leave here with THAT being the last thing we talked about. Tell me something about you that you can share but something to make my session end on a good note." And he always does that for me if I ask :-)