Hi Debbie,

How many times have you been to see this therapist? Have you just had one visit? Two? Three? Sometimes it can take a few visits to tell whether you and a therapist are a good personality match or not, I think. If you've had a few visits, and you think the two of you are not going to be able to get along together, I'd say it's time to try another therapist. From what you're describing, it sounds like this therapist may have a more confrontive style than you feel comfortable with. If this was just your first visit, I agree with others....I would go back and try talking with the therapist, and say that I wasn't comfortable with how the past visit went, and why. If you talk with the therapist, hopefully they will listen and adapt their behavior, or explain why they are behaving the ways they do if they won't change. Then you will get a better sense of whether it's time to move on or not. Sometimes it's just not a good personality match between the two people (it happens) and you may just do better with another therapist. Some counselors have a very confrontive and straightforward style, as you describe, and others are very gentle and patient most of the time (mine is). Some people just do better with one or the other, I think. And I imagine there are some counselors whose behavior is somewhere in the middle. I'm sorry this has been so hard - I send caring thoughts your way. For what it's worth, I used to be extremely overweight most of my life, and lost 100 pounds a few years ago. But that was a big decision, and it took me a lot to get ready to lose weight. I'm glad I've done it now, but it is a complicated issue for many people. I know it was for me.

Take care,
ErinBear