I know my T would never look for me here. I think our therapists should only receive from us what we feel comfortable giving to them. My T has always emphasized that I should never feel any pressure to share what I'm not ready to share with her.

Maybe what your T did does not cross 'ethical' lines, but what he did was a definite boundary crossing. It was wrong. If he did it by your invitation, that would have been fine.

You have a right to feel violated because you were.