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(JD) · Jun 26, 2011, 11:02 AM

(((zooropa)))) I'm sorry to hear that not only is therapy with this T ending, but that it isn't bringing any closure for you. Changing Ts is always difficult to begin with...that you feel invalidated only adds to that angst.

Now let me state up front that I am not a fan of DBT at all. Maybe good ole' CBT is what will work better for you, and since this T doesn't engage in that method, it is time to find one better suited for you?

There are resources on PC for how to interview a therapist...and I would suggest that by using one of those you will find a T better suited to how you learn, with the disorder you may have.

Last, let me remind you that this may very well be HER issue and not yours! Don't take all the blame, don't take all this quite so personally if you can shield yourself some from it...SHE may be having issues she can't handle or, like any good therapist when they hit a wall and is no longer helping a patient/client, refers to someone that might be able to further help. Plus, when a patient/client states they are ending therapy or looking for a new therapist, it is almost unethical for the T to try and convince the patient to stay. So if you truly don't want to leave this therapist, try once again with a talk, and state that you were mistaken and aren't looking for a new T and really want to work with her and how or what is the best thing you can do right now to continue to heal.... etc.

Good wishes. You'll get through this, and will be stronger I hope...