Or, perhaps your current T will challenge you in different, non-hurtful ways.

My T often challenges me on my thinking, but it's always been in a very kind, supportive way. She's never intentionally tried to push my buttons, make me angry, challenge me, or anything of the sort. In fact 99% of the time, if I'm upset about something that happened in therapy, it's due to my own reactions or perceptions or something I've shared. When I tell my T about being upset, we talk through it, and she just keeps accepting me. It helps a lot that my T is very perceptive and reads my tone of voice and body language exceptionally well, and knows when I'm upset even before I do!

I've had bad experiences with T's before, and I think that when you find the right one for you, then you just have to try to set aside those previous experiences and accept that this is an entirely different person, a different experience, and it will not be the same. I know, easier said than done...I'm struggling with it right now!