Perhaps it's not a matter of being good or bad, but just being authentic. I know honesty is scary...believe me, I KNOW! But, being honest with your T, being honest with yourself, I think that's the only way to be a "good" patient and "good" at your life. When you've lived your whole life hiding, either behind the "good" mask or the "bad" mask, it's so very difficult to set those aside and just be. I've spent my entire live wearing that "good" mask for others, and it's just as damaging as the bad one, because I've never been true to myself. I'm trying to learn how, but it is very, very hard.

Being honest, and expecting honesty from your T would probably solve a lot of communication issues too!