I can understand why you feel violated because its an invasion of your privacy but I dont understand why you told T your username? Surely that's giving him enough information to find out what you are saying on here? I wouldnt expect T to come searching for information on me, but if I told him the website and my username, I wouldnt blame him for having a look. Although I WOULD expect him to then tell me that he had looked at my posts, and I would then address with him how I felt violated etc.