sunrise, we cross-posted. I don't know if all Ts "agonize" over what to write in emails, but mine said it was "therapy", and it mattered what she wrote, which is true. Of course, what a T says on the phone matters too. Maybe not as much because you don't always remember, whereas words are there forever.

If I had emailed my first T, when I had a hard time telling her my feelings, I would agree about not using it instead of face to face communication. I would have used email as a crutch. I've come a long way, and now I can say everything (well, almost) that I can email. I also think in granite's case, it could be helpful for the T to allow email as a means to start the communcation process and get the words out. But every T is different.

I think it makes sense not to allow email when you're just starting out as a T.