Hi Byzantine - Unfortunatly couples therapy is not an option for us as my husband isn't interested in going to therapy. He is a do it yourselfer. He doesn't see the point in paying a therapist for couples therapy even thought I go to one

I have been working on my marriage outside of couples therapy on and off while being in individual therapy. My T has given me some really good advice on how to bring my husband and I closer together but old habbits fall into place. I feel like sometimes I'm the only one trying and other times I'm the problem by not opening up to my husband about what isn't bothering me.

My husband and I had a talk and he said he doesn't know what else to do for me and I don't know what else to say. I'm just trying now through my actions of just prioritizing being together on a most basic level and hope we can end up stronger after all of this.