Im coming to the conclusion that i am probably not gay, but not perfectly straight either. I believe this is the proper background for answering this problem i have....

i get intimidated by women when sex is involved. This is not so much an issue when the girl is someone i feel very strongly for, in which case sex is frequent and easy. I find myself not able, willing, or not comfortable with letting most people get close to me. Friends or girls.

The thought of sex seems to get ahead of my emotions, in that i fear sex more than i let myself feel in the moment. I am afraid of failing at sex, of not being able to get aroused for such an act. There is something along these lines that keeps me afraid and not wanting to let myself be vulnerable....yet certain girls transcend this fear in me, and sex is amazing and passionate. other times it seems pointless. how much of an effect does ones emotions effect this? it just seems like most other guys on tv or in the world or whatever, that the norm, is that guys just have sex all the time with any girl they see.

i dont see myself falling into this category anymore, it seems pointless without the feelings behind it.

maybe ive answered my own question, that i need to feel emotional and not think about sex, and then i will find myself wanting it.

discuss.