Hunny,
I agree, staying calm helps a lot where freaking out makes things worse and harder to deal with. Also asking ‘others’ to stay calm helps.
I sometimes hear the words in my head, “Just stay calm. We must be calm.” That’s Alison, she came along to help keep the peace between Alice and Angel. Just felt like introducing some parts of me. This isn’t something I do these days preferring to try to work as one. Not always easy.