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Old Jun 27, 2011, 12:23 PM
Anonymous37798
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Originally Posted by PreacherHeckler View Post
He thinks it has the potential to be both good and bad. He thinks it's good for offering and receiving support and to feel less alone with some of the issues I struggle with, but he also sees the potential for posting threads that don't necessarily reflect the reality of certain situations, because even if we think we're being objective about our relationship with our T's, we can still only present our own version of events because our T's don't have the opportunity to agree or disagree with our interpretation. This is exactly what my therapist tells me. I think that sometimes we get in here say things about our therapists, then everyone has that "OMG! I can't believe he/she did or said that!"

And I don't know about anyone else here but when my emotions are running high I'm not the best judge of reality, so that's why you'll rarely see me posting anything when my T and I aren't exactly on the same page. I think that this is probably true about many of us. I find that I post and delete quite often! I am getting better about writing things out and then not submitting them. Just getting my frustration out and not putting it on anyone else in here.

I used to post about those issues several years ago at another site before I found this one, but I eventually learned to deal directly with my T and work it out with him when we had a rupture because I realized when I went back and read those old posts weeks or months later, my perception of events had been clouded by my past and I was surprised by my ability to distort things when I thought I had been presenting them accurately at the time.
I don't think that any of us intentionally distort things, but we often times do. When I had my recent rupture and went 'mute' for awhile, my perception of that whole incident was totally different from hers. Once things settled down, we talked about what happened. Her view of the events were totally different than mine.

During that time she did apologize for her part in causing me to be upset. I am not sure at the time that she even knew what I was upset with her about, but she apologized anyway. Had she not done that, who knows how long the rupture would have gone on!

As for how she feels about me going to this forum, she kinda views this like group therapy. She says that it appears to be helping me. We discuss a lot of things in my sessions that I see on PC. She does give me her honest opinion about everything and it gives us some good topics to discuss in my session.

She has cautioned me to be careful about what I disclose on the internet. You never know how that might come back and bit you in the hiney one day!

Last edited by Anonymous37798; Jun 27, 2011 at 01:02 PM.
Thanks for this!
PreacherHeckler