lago- It sounds to me like you're trying very hard to be okay with the idea because you love her and don't want to lose her, when actually you hate the idea and you feel a bit helpless and betrayed that she would do this to you. (Actually I can't tell if this is what I think you're feeling or what I think I would feel like, but I digress.) -Especially the comments about not wanting to be with you for the 50 years and how she misses being single (basically). It's very foreboding and I know that if I were you, I would be trying my best to justify it in my mind and ask other to help me in justifying it and being okay with it. Thing is, with something like this, you may just need to face her and say "I'm not going to deal with this. I love you but I just can't let this happen and be happy." YOUR happiness should be what's most important to you. You need to stick up for what you believe here and it can be extremely painful to do it. You may lose your wife if she becomes really adamant, but seriously man, I think you're just prolonging the misery until the s**t hits the fan. You may as well deal with the issue and move on from there instead of dwelling and constantly wondering. It will CONSUME you. Also, your kids man, think about how they'd have to grow up with a miserable father. They don't need to pick up on that behavior. Always remember to do what's best for your kids as well. I don't know. I feel really awful for you right now. I've been assuming you're against the idea based on how I felt when I read your post. I could be wrong though. Anyway, let us know how it turns out please.

Cheers.