I am sorry I have not gotten back to responding to all or your responses. I appreciate all that you have had to say and all make much sense & as I feel, there really is no real answer & only she knows what went on in her mind to keep her from caring for herself.

I appreciate all of your responses & each one makes much sense along with the fact that you have gone through similar situations yourselves. It is a scarry situation. I remember once I realized I had a lump in my breast. I fought mentally with myself for a couple of weeks & then told myself that I had to know the answer whether I liked it or not & the longer I waited the worse off I could be & chose to go take care of it rather than wait. After I had the mammogram, I didn't get any response. Then I got worried if they had lost the information of what, then it was up to me to have to go after the answer & couldn't just wait for the Dr's response anymore. I was very lucky & was told that I was just lumpy (lol). That made me feel so much better.....but all the time I waited for the answer, I kept keeping track of the size of the lump, making sure that it wasn't getting any bigger....while I held my breath waiting for the answer.

It is scarry going through that stress of deciding to do something, then waiting, then when you don't get an answer & have to force yourself to get the answer......but I knew it was something I had to do...so I did it. I guess because I went through that myself was part of the reason I just couldn't understand how my Mother could be in the place she was in....& then to continually asking me when she was going to get better really put me in a difficult place when even the Dr's weren't honest with me.

I do appreciate all of your responses & it does help me feel better to hear what each of you have felt about similar situations & I appreciate the time you took to respond to me topic.
Thank you all & it helps me to hear others feelinge & Ideas about the subject.

Sorry it has taken me so long to respond, but life has become very difficult lately but I want you all to know how much I appreciate your responses.

Thank you,
Debbie