So during the 8 years you've been seeing current T, you spent 5 of those seeing another T as well? That sounds super complicated!

I'm trying to imagine being in this situation with my T. I think (actually, I know) I would go to my session and be as honest as I could about how his words made me feel. Not in a blaming way, in a "when people talk to me like x, I feel like y" kind of way. And I would ask him to please be more respectful. And I guess I would see what happened after that. My T has said some pretty minor things by comparison to that text, and I've been really honest, and he's heard me, and it's been good and healing.