Greenfairy, you know I really don't expect her to validate my experience at all. What happened is very complicated as I have figured out why I called her etc. It has tripped an old cord of pain, being blamed, I am crazy, everyone else is okay. So for many years I had no words to describe, couldn't say the words. And now for many years the words are said, and it was shocking to have her invalidate the words that have come to be second nature for me to use, at least some of them. It is very complicated but I just realized why I called her and it has a lot to do with missing my dear friend Jane who nurtured me. It had to do with not wanting to be someone who blames my life on the past etc. Thanks for the help.